Preparing for Modern Day Love and a partnership commitment as we mature are based on different priorities and emotions than before. When we arrive at this juncture in our biography relationship happiness now becomes a major focus of what we want a relationship to bring us. "What does relationship and happiness look like?" and "What qualities are required in another and in myself to help me achieve my relationship goals?" These become important questions to ponder as we prepare for love.
Many of us are now vibrating at a higher level of consciousness and although this is an exciting time in our evolution it can at times also be confusing and feel like we are in a fog. This occurs when we are trying to navigate two different levels of understanding about finding and keeping love. Not being clear about the type of love we want to attract and keep often delays us achieving our relationship goals. Having a foot in both camps of lower and higher love consciousness does not work.
Relationships are powerful mirrors and often we believe we are ready to meet our special one only to be presented with another crazy love situation that looks and feels nothing like we expected. These situations are wake-up calls letting us know that our internal navigation system needs our attention. This involves exploring our shadow side- the hidden parts of our psyche. We are now provided with an opportunity to bring to light emotions and patterns that have been blocking our progress to manifesting the higher aspects of soul based love.
Statistics reveal that second marriages have a greater risk of failure and ending in divorce. Rushing into marriage or a long term commitment again is not advisable as rebound relationships that end in marriage are less likely to succeed. Often men marry too quickly after a divorce because they don't like being alone and want a new partner to provide them with emotional security. Women remarry too quickly because they desire to feel safe and this usually translates in them wanting to find financial security in a companion. These two reasons to remarry and or connect are not good reasons. With this in mind our solutions for relationship success now require new paradigms to assist us in achieving long term fulfilment.
Becoming clear about what we are looking for and identifying our values and relationship goals are critical steps towards preparing for a new commitment. This requires us to resolve all past relationship issues, hurts and traumas and pinpointing what we will no longer tolerate all in the name of love. If these considerations aren't taken into account then there is a higher risk of repeating the past but with a more painful outcome.
For successful partner selection we need to listen to what the other person is telling us they want and desire in a relationship. If they are telling us that they want different things out of life then we need to act on this, by not pursuing the relationship further. It is important not to ignore or turn the other person's words into what we want to hear. It is paramount a person aligns with our values and goals for relationship success.
So take time to clear out the old and consciously begin to reprogram for the love you desire and don't settle. Your first priority is to develop and maintain a great relationship with the person you are guaranteed to be with one for the rest of your life -YOU.
Live fabulously and everyday shine a little brighter - good things will come!
To purchase your audio Preparing for Love Products and for more information on Marina's dating and relationship tips visit: http://www.modernlovesolutions.com
Marina is also available for Phone & Skype Love Coaching Consultations. Visit: http://www.modernlovesolutions.com to schedule a sessions.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Marina_Bakker
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/8822875
0 التعليقات:
Post a Comment